Re-visit or get clear on understanding your boundaries. Ensure you are clear on your values and what's important to you as this will define your boundaries. Boundaries are crucial for high resilience whilst being generous and authentic.
Stay connected. Maintain good positive relationships, and stay in touch with good people.
Have a flexible mindset, approach problems and challenges with an open mind and accept there will be hard times and you don't have all the answers or the control. Check with yourself is it your thinking or is it the actual event that's causing you pain? Accepting circumstances that cannot be changed can help you focus on circumstances that you can alter.
Building your confidence and self-esteem through having a positive image of yourself. Notice the thoughts you have of yourself on a daily basis, are they critical? Try changing these automatic reactive thoughts through mindfulness or coaching.
If you’ve had a bad day, don’t let it linger, get out and change your environment so you can be alone for 15 minutes. Then take some deep breaths and let go of tension with every out breath. Do this regularly so it becomes a habit.
Keep a journal or notebook to record what has gone well in the day - no matter how small. There will be something, for example getting up and getting dressed is a good start. It takes time to nurture a new habit and this helps us notice the good and it redresses the critical thinking ruts we can fall into.
If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed trying to support colleagues or you’re just trying to be helpful but nervous about being out of your depth, remember you’re not there to rescue or solve all their problems. Listening and acknowledging what is being said is powerful. Take the pressure off yourself to be all things and just be there with them.
Remember resilience is not a personality trait it can be learned and is a process of ongoing learning and practice.
